What should I do?

[PepsiRacer4]

I've hit a crossroad in my young life.

Today my dad finally lost his wits and went all out on me and my mother and little brother who have had their faults in his insanity but they haven't created all his havoc. I am not the best person on the earth, I'm a sub-par sim painter, I don't execute on my chores correctly as I should or anything else. I'm always the center of his rants, yet he claims he loves me, but he says he'd rather see me die or leave on my own at 16 and watch me fail miserably. He has a short fuse and a huge temper. I feel suicidal right now, or I just want to leave and fall off the face of the earth and never be heard of again. I'm confused, and with the elder prescene that is here maybe someone could help. I'm lost, confused, torn apart, and I want to fix myself. I try to hold myself back from crying because I'm a strong person and can take a lot. But there is only so much one person can absorb and keep going.

Your E-Friend,
Tyler, PR4, PepsiRacer.

 

[tipptruck]

I went through the same thing to a point. My dad never told me he would rather see me dead though. I also never considered suicide. That wont help a thing. That might end your life but what will happen to your family.

Have you ever thought that your dad is under some pressure. It could be work, money, what ever. It could also be your parents are having some problems. They are not sharing with you kids. You and your family need to talk this one out. If that don't work you might have to go see someone for help.

I can say very few things about this. But there is one Thing I know. You dad dose love you and his proud of you. Even though he don't show it. I think maybe some time you and your dad need to have some one on one time. Go out fishing or a long drive and just talk. you guys both might cry but who cares. You guys will be getting stuff out that has been pent up for who knows how long.

 

[Enter Sandman]

Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem and causes more problems for those left behind. It's not an option. As difficult and hopeless as things may seem, you and your family will find a way through it. Have faith in yourselves, and you'll get through this.

In the words of James Hetfield:

What don't kill ya makes ya more strong.


Rise above the tough times, better days are ahead whether you can see them now or not.

 

[JeffJordan]

Speaking as somebody who went through the same thing, check your PM box...

 

[PepsiRacer4]

I went through the same thing to a point. My dad never told me he would rather see me dead though. I also never considered suicide. That wont help a thing. That might end your life but what will happen to your family.

Have you ever thought that your dad is under some pressure. It could be work, money, what ever. It could also be your parents are having some problems. They are not sharing with you kids. You and your family need to talk this one out. If that don't work you might have to go see someone for help.

I can say very few things about this. But there is one Thing I know. You dad dose love you and his proud of you. Even though he don't show it. I think maybe some time you and your dad need to have some one on one time. Go out fishing or a long drive and just talk. you guys both might cry but who cares. You guys will be getting stuff out that has been pent up for who knows how long.

Thanks, I'll take it into consideration but he's unreasonable in a mood like this.

Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem and causes more problems for those left behind. It's not an option. As difficult and hopeless as things may seem, you and your family will find a way through it. Have faith in yourselves, and you'll get through this.

In the words of James Hetfield:

What don't kill ya makes ya more strong.


Rise above the tough times, better days are ahead whether you can see them now or not.

I hope I can survive.

Speaking as somebody who went through the same thing, check your PM box...

Got ya.

May also like to add, he's threatened to leave me and my family to be on our own. He just pisses me off sometimes. Ignorant prick.

 

[canadienhits]

Dude,

You are like a son to me. I am so very proud of you. You don't give yourself credit. You are a good painter and good person. When you do some stuff on here that makes me cringe as a mod, your heart is in the right place.

Dude, if you were closer you could come over anytime and chill until you got your bricks together. All I can offer is my friendship, Bro-Hugs, and whatever I can in the way of helpful advice. Hang in there.

John

 

[PepsiRacer4]

Canada isn't too far away right? Lol.

 

[canadienhits]

Canada isn't too far away right? Lol.

You've got an open invite to our house. (y)

 

[flyersfan4888]

Canada isn't too far away right? Lol.

Go ahead, just gotta get used to snow and pick up some NHL SWAG (c wut i did thar? lol) and you'll be good to go.

 

[PepsiRacer4]

Go ahead, just gotta get used to snow and pick up some NHL SWAG (c wut i did thar? lol) and you'll be good to go.

Canadian Swag. Hellz yeah! (y)

 

[canadienhits]

Don't mind Jay....it's the Philly in him LOL

 

[Ryan597]

Sorry to hear that. It's really challenging mentally and emotionally to go through something like this, but I really hope that this ends OK. Stay strong, believe in yourself, and never give up

 

[flyersfan4888]

Don't mind Jay....it's the Philly in him LOL

In all honesty though, theres a better chance of me living up in Canada, than here in the U.S. after college.

(I did that backwards lol)

 

[canadienhits]

Jay, you've got an open invite up here as well ya know.....

 

[jacobc62]

I've hit a crossroad in my young life.

Today my dad finally lost his wits and went all out on me and my mother and little brother who have had their faults in his insanity but they haven't created all his havoc. I am not the best person on the earth, I'm a sub-par sim painter, I don't execute on my chores correctly as I should or anything else. I'm always the center of his rants, yet he claims he loves me, but he says he'd rather see me die or leave on my own at 16 and watch me fail miserably. He has a short fuse and a huge temper. I feel suicidal right now, or I just want to leave and fall off the face of the earth and never be heard of again. I'm confused, and with the elder prescene that is here maybe someone could help. I'm lost, confused, torn apart, and I want to fix myself. I try to hold myself back from crying because I'm a strong person and can take a lot. But there is only so much one person can absorb and keep going.

Your E-Friend,
Tyler, PR4, PepsiRacer.

Damn dude! Sounds like my dad when I was A YEAR OLD!!!!!!!! once, he broke the door down to my room because he was on a rampage (sober w/ a touch of nicotinne) after my mom grabed me to take me there after dinner. To this day, he calls me stupid, he says that when I don't do chores, it's like saying :censored: you to the rest of the family. He is a control freak, and he doesn't want me to play NR2003 just because I like it.

Sorry to hear that. It's really challenging mentally and emotionally to go through something like this, but I really hope that this ends OK. Stay strong, believe in yourself, and never give up

Also, LISTEN TO THIS QUOTE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Scar7752]

I've been in a similar situation lately, although I'm not gonna say what's going on publicly. I know its gotta be tough when a family member says stuff like that, and although I don't know 100% of your situation, my advice would be to get the hell out. Threatening you and your family like that is unacceptable, and the best thing to do IMO would be to find a different place where you and the rest of your family could stay.

My .02, just send me a PM or somethin if ya need to talk.

 

[ongias25]

Try to hang in there and don't do anything you can't undo.......like suicide.Somewhere in your dad he does love you,some parents react to stress differently not saying that what he is doing is ok.Hopefully he will come to his right mind about the situation and act accordingly.By the way if you are ever out on the west coast you have a place to stay with me and my family,I've got 3 xtra rooms and plenty of food................Hang in there best of luck,Phil.

 

[JeffJordan]

Well, on a bright side, be happy your dad didn't just leave out of rage. I know how that hurts.

 

[PepsiRacer4]

He's close to it now.

 

[David24]

Absolutely under no circumstances should a husband/father leave his family. There's a thing he should have called unconditional love.

I am probably no help to you since I have never had a problem like this with my dad (it was more drinking problems) So I don't have much to say other than to give it time.